Stuck in the Past: Finding Freedom in the Present
Lately I've been struggling with feeling utterly depleted and just stuck. As I started doing some inner work, I realized that my focus has been entirely on the past. Past core beliefs, past identities, past relationships, past looks, past regrets—everything is rooted in the past.
This fixation on the past is robbing me of the present. My grooves keep me in what was, and I miss out on what is. I miss out on the beauty of the present moment, the now, the only place where life truly happens. I’m completely fearful of the future.
What will tomorrow bring?
How will I face it?
Does any of this resonate with you?
When I try to dig a little into why I am holding on to the past, I realize part of it is familiarity. The past is known, it's a story I've told myself many times. There’s comfort in that. The future, on the other hand, is an unknown entity, there is so much uncertainty.
So, how do we break free?
How do we lean into courage ?
For me, it starts with mindfulness. It’s about being present, fully engaged with what’s happening now. When I walk with Jack, I try to really be there—feel the ground under my feet, listen to the sounds around us, notice the smells and sights. It takes practice to move those grooves.
It also helps to let go of those old stories. They’ve served their purpose, taught their lessons, but they don’t define who I am now or who I can be tomorrow. I remind myself that I am not my past. I am not my regrets. I am not my old beliefs. I am a constantly evolving being, capable of growth and change.
And, it’s essential to create a sense of gratitude for the present. When I focus on what I have right now—my health, my loved ones, the simple joys of daily life—it roots me in the now and gives me strength to face whatever comes next.
So, what about you? Do you find yourself stuck in the past, fearful of the future? How do you stay present and embrace the now?
Let’s share our journeys and support each other. After all, we’re in this dance of life together.